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On Changing Churches

My family has changed churches twice in the last two and half years. We didn’t move to another town or change for any obvious reason. Over time small moments added up turning into a feeling like where we were attending wasn’t home any more.

We were members of one church for ten years. We were sad to leave, but we definitely felt like it was the right choice. When we joined the next church we thought we would be there for another ten years, so it was a surprise to us when we found ourselves leaving after two.

Trinity Grace Park Slope Church

Trinity Grace Park Slope, Brooklyn

Choosing a church

Living in a large town in the bible belt means we have a buffet of choices when it comes to a place of worship. I can walk out my door on Sunday morning and within a few minutes attend a church service at one of a dozen churches. I am grateful for the privilege of having the freedom of moving to a new church.

I’ve listened to teaching telling me I should choose a church based on where my family can serve instead of what that church can offer us. I’ve also heard I need to pray and feel called to a church. In practice we would attend a service then and ask ourselves, “Did we enjoy the service? Did we get anything out of the sermon? Can we do this every week?” Perhaps our questions are shallow, but discussing the church experience helped Daniel and I debrief and process our thoughts.

Church in Berlin

Church in Berlin

The kids get a vote

Our kids are older and they get to cast a vote on where we attend. I attended a children’s church training and the instructor talked about what parents say when they pick their kids up from class on Sunday. He said parents usually ask their kids, “Did you have fun?”, but instead they should ask, “What did you learn about our God today?” I understand his sentiment, but I disagree with it.

At this time I would rather my kids have fun on Sunday mornings than be involved in an intense scripture study. I homeschool and teach the Bible at home. I want my kids to be excited about church.


Hillsong Church London

Hillsong Church London

Attending a megachurch

This past spring we were skipping Sunday mornings and watching church through a live feed at home. We jokingly called it “Couch Church” or “Waffles & Worship”. For months we struggled to be engaged in any of the sermons and our interest in attending church was dangerously low. We realized this wasn’t a healthy attitude.

Then I remembered that we enjoy attending church because we visit churches while traveling. It’s fun to us to experience the Body of Christ around the world. Those memories reminded me that church can be enjoyable.

Hillsong Church Paris

Hillsong Church Paris

I suggested to Daniel that we visit the Saturday service at the megachurch around the corner. I hoped the 5:00 p.m. Saturday service would be a way to solve our attendance problem. I also assumed the messages preached would be oversimplified for multitudes to understand and maybe we would like simple sermons better. Turns out we love the 5:00 p.m. Saturday service and the short three minute drive to the church’s parking lot. Thankfully I was completely wrong about the sermons, because they have been speaking loud and clear to our present situations. The sermons are one my favorite parts of our new church.

There’s a saying at this new church: “It’s okay to not be okay.” That’s a message we really need to hear right now. There isn’t anything wrong in our lives and we aren’t in any sort of crisis mode. But it’s a message of grace that allows us to be ourselves and take time to figure things out.

I don’t know if we’ll stay at this church for ten years. I don’t know when or how we will get involved. I don’t know what the future holds.

I do know our kids love going to church. I do know we love going on Saturday evenings. I do know we love leaving church encouraged and challenged.

Right now it feels like home.

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Random Thoughts on Body Image

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about body image. Like the classic meme I want to be thin, but I love food. I want to look good in my clothes and set a healthy example for my daughter. I’m still figuring out the right combination of acceptance, nutritious food, and exercise.


Here are some random thoughts I’ve had about my body image.


By Hollywood standards I’m the homely, stout best friend character. According to Mindy Kaling’s first book we’re both a size eight. (Although, the shorts I just bought are a size ten.) In normal American standards I’m pretty normal and healthy. However, by European standards I’m a chunky American.

This is a broad generalization, but I think those who live in European urban cities have it easier than their American counterparts. Some Europeans have easier access to real food and are able to walk around their city. Whereas Americans drive everywhere and the quickest food options are not the most nutritious. Our American suburban hubs aren’t designed with meeting physical health goals for its inhabitants. Americans fight an uphill battle when it comes to eating nutritious food and getting exercise.


My weight and size and fluctuates within 5 to 10ish pounds. I’ve heard this is a normal part of life. Some of my weight changes because I’ll stop focusing on eating nutrient rich foods or I’ll exercise hard for a couple of weeks. The change isn’t a big deal until my clothes don’t fit. I hate shopping and spending money on clothes. It’s disheartening when your clothes from last summer don’t fit.

What Matters to Me

I don’t really care about the number on the scale. I’ve always been heavier than I appear. What I care about is how my clothes fit. The clothes I pin on Pinterest don’t really look great on my body type. Anthropologie’s drapey clothes are a success, because their clothes look great on a lot of body types. My problem is I don’t like drapey clothes. I prefer the structure of a good pair of jeans and a stylish t-shirt without a muffin top.



The internet is applauding women who decided to have a bikini body by simply deciding to wear one. Another post I read celebrated women who accepted their body and wore their two piece swimsuits with pride. I don’t wear a bikini, because I don’t want to stress about my bits falling out while I’m trying to make sure my children don’t drown. Bikinis are stressful.

When I see a thin person

I’m logical thinker. I know I shouldn’t compare, but I do anyway. So when I see a person thinner than me I go through this flow chart: 1. Have they had children? No. Well, that’s why. 2. They have had children. How many? Only one. That’s why. 3. They have had two or more kids, then what is their body type? They are naturally lean and they have good genes. That’s why. Not much I can do about my genes.


I once read one of those Cosmopolitan magazine articles explaining how most people fit into one of four different body types. I learned I’m not naturally a tall and lean body type. So many of us can’t do much about the genes and body type we have. My genes aren’t so hot. It’s an uphill battle.


This is the part where I’m supposed to write about how much I love what God gave me. Why I should love all the extra droopy skin and poochy belly that my three children gave me. Of course, I love my kids and I’m grateful for the privilege of having them. My issue is how my waist size easily fluctuates. Most of the time I look three months pregnant. That’s what bugs me the most. It’s difficult to find shirts that lay just the right way around my midsection. I’ve watched a lot of What Not to Wear and I know we all have some sort of issue we need to dress correctly. It’s not easy, but I am working on accepting this mama body.

Moving Forward

Diets and working out are great, but I’m on the hunt for stuff I can do forever. I don’t regret all the diets I’ve tried, because each time I added something new to my everyday diet. I don’t want to crash diet again only to gain it all back within a week of bad eating. Because sometimes life happens and you need to eat a giant pizza for your mental health.

I’m also working on finding a sustainable workout plan for the rest of my life. Doing an hour at the gym three to four times a week isn’t sustainable. Walking and some basic exercises like pushups and crunches are something I can do the rest of my life.

Finding the right combination of acceptance and healthy living is tricky. I love food and yummy beverages. I also like wearing cute clothes. It’s an uphill battle.

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I like choosing my next book based on my mood. Do I want an engrossing YA book? A long epic tale? A classic? An intriguing Science Fiction story?

This spring I needed a lighter book to take a break from all my dark Science Fiction novels. Everything I wanted from the library was already checked out. Nothing on my personal shelves sounded good. Then a friend recommended NetGalley. NetGalley is a site where I get an advanced reader copy (ARC) or a galley book in exchange for a review. Not a bad gig. Galley books are a gamble, because there aren’t many reviews to see if I will like a book or not. All I have to go on is a cover and little synopsis. This spring I read two netgalley books and thankfully I liked them both.


Here is my disclosure statement: I received these two books for free in exchange for my honest opinion. I’m a Candor at heart and I can’t lie.

Both RADIO GIRLS and THE MEMORY OF US take place around England in 1920s and 1930s, so I thought it would be appropriate to review them together. I think having Big Ben on both covers got me. I love stories set in London. One story focuses on a woman in a professional setting and the other focuses on a romantic relationship. Both stories are hindered by political circumstances and society’s limited roles for women. I don’t want to give too much away and spoil the stories.


RADIO GIRLS by Sarah-Jane Stratford

I was looking for a good Historical Fiction novel when I saw this beautiful cover and interesting story. RADIO GIRLS certainly rekindled my joy for Historical Fiction. Late 1920s London after WWI is a fascinating window into the history of the BBC. We know what’s going to hit London in 1940, but the characters can’t see the future.

The story of Maisie and the other characters feels like Mad Men meets Mr. Selfridge. I would even say RADIO GIRLS could have been set in the seventh or eighth season of Downton Abbey if Edith went into radio.

I enjoyed the book very much and finished it within a week. Maisie is a strong character. I appreciated her generous appetite. Everyone else adds their own spice into the mix. I enjoyed the fast and snappy dialogue. I also appreciated how the male relationships weren’t the sole focus of the novel. I don’t want to give too much away, but it was intriguing to see some of the struggles of women in 1920s London.

There were a few parts when it felt like the story wasn’t moving, but when things got going I couldn’t put it down. Be sure to read all the way through the very end. Some of the best bits are in the back.

Definitely giving this one two thumbs up and recommending it! There are also book club questions listed in the back which definitely help book club leaders.


THE MEMORY OF US by Camille Di Maio

I requested this book for two reasons. First the cover of the book is so pretty. Second, the author is a homeschool mom in San Antonio, Texas. I’m also a homeschooling mom in San Antonio, Texas and I want to support a local author.
The Memory of Us begins in 1930s England with a young debutant, Julianne Westcott, who doesn’t ignore reality, but also wants to follow her heart. I think readers who enjoyed Colm Toibin’s BROOKLYN will also enjoy this romantic tale.

The book has a Catholicism theme, but it’s reminiscent of Jane Austen using clergymen in her stories. I liked looking at the Catholic aspects through Julianne’s perspective, because I’m not Catholic and have only attended mass a few times. The balance of the church and priesthood with the overall story was done very well.

The book is romantic without being gross or bawdy. So if you are looking for a book with heart and intrigue while being clean then I would definitely recommend this one!

The book starts in the middle of the story. The mystery of what happens keeps you turning pages until very end. This book would be nice summery read.

What is your favorite book set in London? What is your favorite city to read about?


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Blogging and Books Update – May 2016

I blogged everyday for a few months in 2015. I loved creating small posts with interesting photos and sharing my art with the world. Then I simply ran out of words. I started living my life offline and my life became less complicated. For a while my husband and I blogged about paying off debt and traveling. We traveled a bit and we are still deciding what comes next for our family. We don’t have the funds to make any real decisions so we are just schooling our kids and working. Living a normal life doesn’t make for sensational blog posts.

One other reason I haven’t been blogging is because my health revolted against me. When I’m stressed out my body lets me know with small, annoying symptoms. One symptom caused me to see 5 different doctors last year. My issue could only be cured with a prescription which required a doctor visit. Sometimes I would ask for refills, but they weren’t always given. I hated the prescription, because it limited my diet and activities for two weeks. Doctors have no idea what causes the issue and can only treat the symptoms.


My main doctor prescribed yoga and said I need to chill out, because the issue could be caused by stress. I found a natural cure at my local health food store which completely cured me and I decided to chill out. I don’t “work” after the kids go to bed anymore. I like to relax while playing WordBrain, reading a book, or catching up on a show. Since I’ve stopped working after the kids go to bed I haven’t had that specific health problem in 6 months.


Still Reading


I haven’t been writing online, but I have been reading a lot of books. Reading will always be a constant in my life. I love books. At the start of this year I listed 17 books I wanted to read. It’s been 4 months so let’s see how I did on those 17 books.

Science Fiction & Fantasy


READ! A Darker Shade of Magic by V.E. Schwab (Pseudonym), Victoria Schwab – 4 stars. I think the sequel will be better than the first.

READ! Seveneves by Neal Stephenson – 3 stars. I feel like I have a degree in astrophysics after reading this one. Not an easy read, but I did like the premise a lot.

READ! The Final Empire (Mistborn #1) by Brandon Sanderson – 5 stars. So far it is my favorite book of the year.

NOT YET. The Deed of Paksenarrion (Paksenarrion #3-5) by Elizabeth Moon – I still plan on reading this one this summer.

READ! The Diamond Age: or, A Young Lady’s Illustrated Primer by Neal Stephenson – 3 stars. I liked how it messed with my mind, but I didn’t love it. I did start learning how to code in Python after reading this one.

NOT YET. Ender’s Shadow by Orson Scott Card

READ! The Rule of Thoughts and The Game of Lives (The Mortality Doctrine series) by James Dashner – 4 stars and 3 stars, respectively. Fun reads, but forgettable.

NOT YET. Alas, Babylon by Pat Frank

Non-Fiction Books


ALMOST DONE. Jesus, The One and Only by Beth Moore, Dale McCleskey – I’m procrastinating, but I don’t know what study I should do next.

DID NOT FINISH. Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World by Joanna Weaver – I have such a difficult time getting through Non-Fiction.

NOPE. The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands by Lysa TerKeurst – I still think it is a great premise, but I’m not going to read it.

Book Club Picks


READ! Brooklyn by Colm Toibin – 3 stars. I liked it, but I wanted more historical fiction.

CURRENTLY READING. Red Queen by Victoria Aveyard – I didn’t like it at first, but now I can’t wait to finish this one.

READ! The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood – 2 stars. I think this is a love it or hate it kind of book. I didn’t like this one at all.

SOON. Secrets of a Charmed Life by Susan Meissner – This is June’s book club pick, so I will get to it.

READ! Rebecca by Daphne du Maurier – I’m glad i read it, but I didn’t love it. It did keep me up into the night to finish.

So that is 9 out of 17. That’s half my list and I’m pleased with my progress. I’ve also been reading a bunch of other books including some advance reader copies. I’m looking forward to telling you about those two galley books in my next post.

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